Comments on: Mashup: Time, Death, and Ballastexistenz http://www.shiftjournal.com/2010/01/29/mashup-time-death-and-ballastexistenz/ Neurodiversity: autism and Asperger considered in light of social and evolutionary changes; "autistic" explored as a legitimate way of being in the world. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:37:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: abfh http://www.shiftjournal.com/2010/01/29/mashup-time-death-and-ballastexistenz/comment-page-1/#comment-202 abfh Mon, 01 Feb 2010 19:32:09 +0000 http://www.shiftjournal.com/?p=1248#comment-202 Just realized that my first comment was a bit mixed up; the condolences were supposed to go to the Ballastexistenz post... Just realized that my first comment was a bit mixed up; the condolences were supposed to go to the Ballastexistenz post…

]]> By: abfh http://www.shiftjournal.com/2010/01/29/mashup-time-death-and-ballastexistenz/comment-page-1/#comment-190 abfh Fri, 29 Jan 2010 17:33:25 +0000 http://www.shiftjournal.com/?p=1248#comment-190 I'd say that the taboo against speaking ill of the dead is more a matter of social pleasantries than an actual expectation that everyone's memories will change. Complaining about a dead person might be taken as a show of disrespect toward those who are grieving. Also, continuing to criticize a person who is dead (and therefore unable to respond in any way to the criticism) can seem like a petty and pointless grudge. Often the person who writes the eulogy did not know the dead person very well, such as when it's written by a minister who has only seen the person on his or her best behavior on Sundays at church. My condolences on your loss. I’d say that the taboo against speaking ill of the dead is more a matter of social pleasantries than an actual expectation that everyone’s memories will change. Complaining about a dead person might be taken as a show of disrespect toward those who are grieving. Also, continuing to criticize a person who is dead (and therefore unable to respond in any way to the criticism) can seem like a petty and pointless grudge.

Often the person who writes the eulogy did not know the dead person very well, such as when it’s written by a minister who has only seen the person on his or her best behavior on Sundays at church.

My condolences on your loss.

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