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your dreams will be reduced down to breathing, and you will be grateful

The thing about not-being-a-person is: They will say those people and the price of being a person is to nod and agree that yes, those people aren’t people at all. They will have no idea who they are talking to. You yourself will start to forget, too. They will say a million small things that sow the seeds for violence done against you, and you will smile and let them. You will do math, constantly. How much do I want to be a person today? How much do I want this project to succeed? How much honesty can I afford? How much dishonesty will kill me? What is the cost of coming out? Is there a way to delay, soften, transmute? How long can I survive as half a person? Ever since the world ended ... I don't go out as much. People that I once befriended, just don't bother to stay in touch. Things that used to seem so splendid, don't really matter today. It's just as well the world ended -- it wasn't working anyway. Your dreams will be reduced down to breathing. [Read More]

on 03/5/12 | 2 Comments | Read More

What Does “Play” Look Like?

Back when Willy was diagnosed with autism, we were told about all the things he would “never” do.  Anyone who has read this blog for a while probably realizes that all these things the doctor s...[Read More]

on 05/20/11 | 4 Comments | Read More

A Glimpse of Success

Perhaps it’s the timing, perhaps it’s my unpreparedness, but I’m going to share a recent, deceptively simple success story.  The Goldfish hosts Blogging Against Disablism Day on May 1st every...[Read More]

on 05/3/11 | 2 Comments | Read More

Picking Up the “Oops!”

When I first started studying how to be a parent, I read a lot of claims regarding the importance of monitoring, limiting, or disallowing television and video watching.  However, when Willy first sta...[Read More]

on 02/8/11 | 3 Comments | Read More

The Neurodiverse Workforce

The first proposed chapter for my book, tentatively entitled “Neurodiversity at Work: A Manager’s Guide,” is designed to introduce the concept of neurodiversity in a business-friendly context. ...[Read More]

on 01/25/11 | 8 Comments | Read More

Just Be Yourself

I remember hearing those words a lot as a child.  “Just be yourself.”  I would hear those words when we moved and I had to make new friends.  I heard those words again when I started taking int...[Read More]

on 01/11/11 | No Comments | Read More

Bullying (Part 8): Bullying Differences – The Solution

In my previous post, I discussed the problem.  It is my opinion (it would by a hypothesis if I had the means and training to test it), that much of bullying based on prejudice stems from systemic fla...[Read More]

on 11/16/10 | 1 Comment | Read More

Bullying (Part 7): Bullying Differences – The Problem

One of the things that spurred my series on bullying—before the news decided that bullying was a hot issue and before I realized October was Bullying Awareness month—was a post written by Clay. ...[Read More]

on 11/11/10 | No Comments | Read More

Katara & Holly

Sometimes, when life gets difficult it takes focusing on the simplest pleasures to help you take a step back and see progress.  Really, think about that word for a moment.  Progress.  We live our l...[Read More]

on 10/7/10 | No Comments | Read More

Should We Label Characters?

I recently watched A Wrinkle in Time, a movie based on Madeleine L’Engle’s book of the same name. Watching this movie brought back memories of my childhood, when I fell in love with L’Engle’s ...[Read More]

on 10/1/10 | 9 Comments | Read More