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your dreams will be reduced down to breathing, and you will be grateful

The thing about not-being-a-person is: They will say those people and the price of being a person is to nod and agree that yes, those people aren’t people at all. They will have no idea who they are talking to. You yourself will start to forget, too. They will say a million small things that sow the seeds for violence done against you, and you will smile and let them. You will do math, constantly. How much do I want to be a person today? How much do I want this project to succeed? How much honesty can I afford? How much dishonesty will kill me? What is the cost of coming out? Is there a way to delay, soften, transmute? How long can I survive as half a person? Ever since the world ended ... I don't go out as much. People that I once befriended, just don't bother to stay in touch. Things that used to seem so splendid, don't really matter today. It's just as well the world ended -- it wasn't working anyway. Your dreams will be reduced down to breathing. [Read More]

on 03/5/12 | 2 Comments | Read More

Seeking Familiar Comforts

My teenage daughter, who likes to plan ahead, has decided to pick out my next new car.  She insists that a GMC Terrain would be just right for me because it has plenty of space like an SUV, but it ge...[Read More]

on 06/30/10 | No Comments | Read More

Telling Ourselves New Stories

Tattoos, like other forms of art within our society, are a way of making connections with others and statements about personal identity.  When gang members go straight, they often have one or more ...[Read More]

on 06/23/10 | No Comments | Read More

Monks, Mystics, and Mindfulness

Before the modern era, an autistic child born into a family of peasants would have been put to work on the farm, where there was no need to develop fluent speech or to understand complex patterns of s...[Read More]

on 06/16/10 | 2 Comments | Read More

Knowing the Mind of God

Theory of mind, which is a social reasoning process that involves drawing conclusions about the thoughts underlying others' acts, includes the tendency of many people to attribute intent and purpose t...[Read More]

on 06/9/10 | 7 Comments | Read More

More Doing, Less Empathizing

Today's college students scored 40 percent lower on a measure of empathy than students a generation ago, according to a review study that was presented last week at the annual meeting of the Associat...[Read More]

on 06/2/10 | 1 Comment | Read More

Staring Diversity in the Eye

The French Parliament has passed a resolution condemning the wearing of veils, as reported by feminist blogger Aimee Sea in an article pointing out the tremendous irony in the idea that women must be ...[Read More]

on 05/26/10 | 2 Comments | Read More

The Post-Consumer Workforce

As the free sharing of information and creative endeavors on the Internet moves the economy away from a focus on consumerism, we can expect that the careers of the future will differ in many ways from...[Read More]

on 05/19/10 | 1 Comment | Read More

The Post-Consumer Age

As economist Tyler Cowen discusses in his book Create Your Own Economy, today's digital media are causing society to develop in what he characterizes as a more autistic direction.  Instead of passive...[Read More]

on 05/17/10 | No Comments | Read More


On top of my bookshelf I keep a Prosperity Tree, which is by far the most ridiculous gimmicky item I own.  It's about the same height and width as my open hand and has pale blue silk flowers, a white...[Read More]

on 05/12/10 | No Comments | Read More

Strong Women and Social Change

Theory of mind, as Andrew Lehman explains, can be understood as a modern cognitive style that contrasts with the tendency of ancient matrifocal societies—and autistics—to engage in primary process...[Read More]

on 05/6/10 | No Comments | Read More

The Benefit of the Doubt

Many books and articles have been published on the topic of what makes a marriage or relationship succeed.  At the top of my list I'd put willingness to give the other person the benefit of the doubt...[Read More]

on 04/28/10 | No Comments | Read More

Abortion, Violence Against Women, and Autism

Modern society is changing in many ways that increase the autistic population.  Andrew Lehman touched on one of them in a November post discussing the practices of sex-selective abortion and fema...[Read More]

on 04/21/10 | 3 Comments | Read More

The Perils of Normalization

How far would you be willing to go for a more attractive and socially pleasing look?  Would you choose to sacrifice part of your cognitive functioning, leaving your brain less able to process verba...[Read More]

on 03/1/10 | No Comments | Read More

The Tao of the Alarm Clock

Before the housing bubble burst, my husband and I were among those who built a house in an expensive subdivision, on the theory that it was just as good an investment as the stock market and—yay!—...[Read More]

on 01/11/10 | No Comments | Read More

The Path Home

As a child, I loved to wander through quiet woods and to pick wildflowers in meadows, following paths that I pretended would lead me into fairy tale adventures in a long-ago world.  I imagined myse...[Read More]

on 12/28/09 | No Comments | Read More

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